Dear Critter Corner: I’ve been bringing my dog to the dog park and he’s a rough player, so I’m worried that he may be too much for the other dogs. How can I tell if my dog is playing well with others?
That’s a great question! Although play can look noisy or rough, healthy play is built around communication and mutual enjoyment. Dogs often use exaggerated movements to show that their actions are playful rather than threatening.
One of the clearest signs of good play is a “play bow.” A dog lowers its front legs while keeping its hindquarters raised, often with a wagging tail. This is an invitation to play and can communicate friendly intentions to other dogs. Dogs may also be bouncy, chase each other, wrestle, and/or gently mouth one another. During healthy play, they typically take turns being on top when wrestling and being chased. You may also see larger dogs laying down when playing with smaller dogs and puppies, in order to be more inviting.
Good play also involves breaks. Dogs may suddenly stop, shake themselves, sniff the ground, or move away briefly before returning to the game. These breaks allow both dogs to regulate their excitement. A dog that wants to continue will usually choose to re-engage. Respecting these pauses is an important part of safe social interaction.
Reading a dog’s body language is very important to understanding what they’re feeling. Relaxed bodies, loose movements, wagging tails, and soft facial expressions generally suggest that a dog is comfortable. Playful barking or growling is common, but it is important to note what is normal for your dog, as vocalizations can be a sign they’re becoming frustrated.
Signs that a dog may not be enjoying the play are when one dog repeatedly tries to run away, hides behind its owner, tucks its tail, or yelps. A dog that repeatedly ignores another dog’s attempts to stop should also be given a break. You should be prepared to interrupt play calmly when either dog appears overwhelmed.
Ultimately, good play is mutual. Both dogs should have opportunities to participate, take breaks, and choose whether to continue. The goal is to create an interaction in which the dogs remain comfortable and engaged.
Mike Thomas is the Canine Socialization Assistant for the Peninsula Humane Society & SPCA Behavior Department. For more information, please visit www.phs-spca.org, call 650-340-7022 or email behavior@phs-spca.org.